Im sure you get emails like this all the time…
But i am seriously in need of an actual experts point of view.
So my bf and i have been dating 2 1/2 yrs. We have been through A LOT together… well last june we decided to finally move in together. We have had our ups and downs… but 4-5 days ago he out of no where, literally out of no where, said he was unhappy.. i suggested a break and he responded saying, “a break just wont help”.
I understand he has been stressed at work, stressed with paying bills, and stressed with his skating career. So i was nice and packed his things for him. He is currently living at his sisters.
He told me he wants off the lease and wont pay his part of rent…
(We work together btw). So yesterday at work i flipped out, with his bad attitude, and my manager told me to go outside to cool off.
Right before i had left work, i told him i had 3 options. He pays me his half of rent even if hes not there, we come to a written agreement, or we go talk to the landlord on our options.
He says, he isnt doing any of that to leave him alone. So i called my mom, and right as soon as i was about to tell him im going to go tomorrow to see about him getting off the lease… he ignores me and gets in his car and shuts the door.
So im pissed and just leave…
Then around 10 p.m. he texts me saying he agrees to pay his half of rent and he wants his weights, etc. But after that he is done talki g to me…
He has made no contact with me… besides the night he left saying ill be ok and to “man up”.
… he did state he has been “unhappy for months” and i know he isnt talking to anyone.. for a fact.
Do you think this is a way for him to basically, have his space… and when i finally did agree to get him off the lease… he texts me saying he will pay his half… and is that a way to basically control “our reltionship”?
I feel like he wants to act like he doesnt want to be with me and he wants me to “move on”, but as soon as i agree with him… he tries to find a way to keep me “semi controlled”, by having to take his half of rent… idk… im really hopefulhe comes back… but idk.
Im sorry this is so long, this was originally posted on the ex boyfriend help forum, but everyone else’s advice seriously is all the same and sucks…
Any advice is still greatly appreciated (: