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Im sure you get emails like this all the time…
But i am seriously in need of an actual experts point of view.

So my bf and i have been dating 2 1/2 yrs. We have been through A LOT together… well last june we decided to finally move in together. We have had our ups and downs… but 4-5 days ago he out of no where, literally out of no where, said he was unhappy.. i suggested a break and he responded saying, “a break just wont help”.

I understand he has been stressed at work, stressed with paying bills, and stressed with his skating career. So i was nice and packed his things for him. He is currently living at his sisters.
He told me he wants off the lease and wont pay his part of rent…
(We work together btw). So yesterday at work i flipped out, with his bad attitude, and my manager told me to go outside to cool off.
Right before i had left work, i told him i had 3 options. He pays me his half of rent even if hes not there, we come to a written agreement, or we go talk to the landlord on our options.
He says, he isnt doing any of that to leave him alone. So i called my mom, and right as soon as i was about to tell him im going to go tomorrow to see about him getting off the lease… he ignores me and gets in his car and shuts the door.
So im pissed and just leave…
Then around 10 p.m. he texts me saying he agrees to pay his half of rent and he wants his weights, etc. But after that he is done talki g to me…

He has made no contact with me… besides the night he left saying ill be ok and to “man up”.

… he did state he has been “unhappy for months” and i know he isnt talking to anyone.. for a fact.

Do you think this is a way for him to basically, have his space… and when i finally did agree to get him off the lease… he texts me saying he will pay his half… and is that a way to basically control “our reltionship”?

I feel like he wants to act like he doesnt want to be with me and he wants me to “move on”, but as soon as i agree with him… he tries to find a way to keep me “semi controlled”, by having to take his half of rent… idk… im really hopefulhe comes back… but idk.

Im sorry this is so long, this was originally posted on the ex boyfriend help forum, but everyone else’s advice seriously is all the same and sucks…

Any advice is still greatly appreciated (:

Me and my boyfriend met in highschool when i was 15 and have been together for 5 years solid. We are best friends used to spend every day together. He decided to go to college for pre med to become a doctor.

He is in his third year now and things have just went downhill. In june of 2011, he broke up with me because he said it wasn’t fair to me that he is in school and in not getting the attention i need from him. We both cried and that was that.

We were apart for 2 months and i couldn’t handle the stress so i slept with 2 different guys out of pity. I felt disgusting and awful so i told my boyfriend about it. He was also disgusted and he said he would never get bak with me after that. 2 more months passed and we started hanging out again and finally got back together and put the past behind us.

We were doing great, (or so i thought) until i recently noticed that he was becoming very distant from me. He wouldn’t let me stay the night at his place, he stopped saying he loves me, he wasn’t being affectionate, all sex stopped, and i received nothing for valentines day. I ignored it all because he never has really been an affectionate person but i sensed something was wrong. We went to the mall a couple weeks ago and he asked if he could just be here for me without being with me. I was confused and asked why but he just ended that conversation until we left.

When i got home I received a text that said “as much as i hate to say it, I just dont feel the same anymore. That spark thats supposed to be there just isnt anymore. I never made a commitment to be with you forever and if i would have know that being in a relationship meant id have to be with you forever, i wouldnt have gone out with you.” “i want to be friends but if you dont ever want to talk to me again i respect that.” I was devastated. I’m not sure how to win a guy back. It’s been 8 days that i havent said a word to him, nor has he. I don’t know what to do, hes all i think about.

This is a video guide done by Essy on how to get your ex boyfriend back

I was with my bf for 2 years. We broke off last week.

The reason for the breakup was that i always tend out to be insecure and needy in the relationship. Its also that he is a saggi and love to talk/flirt with other gals online.

He always told me that he is with me , but he never use to post pictures on facebook just with him n me . He made me think that its not a good idea to do that beacause people will people become jelous as to why these guys are so happy. Then that brings badluck. He did talked to his parents about me that he wants to marry me , he also talked to my mom that he wants to marry me. But he never made his parents talk to my parents . it was all in the air. He never made me talk to his parents….

He never let me use his phone or computer that i will find things out from them, beacuse i had deleted some pictures of his ex gf , which used to upset me. He had all the pictures of all his ex gf’s on his pc and he use to tell me that i should not be jelous of him and should be okay with all those pictures on his computer. i use to tell him that i am not okay , and feel insecure and jelous beacuse of that „„, he use to make it seem that its my fault. he never deleted a girl whom he had an online affair , from his facebook , saying that she is just a friend now and he is not going to delete her as a frnd.

On the othe hand, when ever he gets angry he tries to hit me and then says that it was me who made him mad, and that why he hit me.

I am not a very jealous gal , but sometime when ur bf is spending too much of time chatting with another gal , you tend to feel insecure, and do crazy stuff like fight with him or be angry with him that why he is talking to other gals

Please I need some advice - how I get a guy back?

The break happened a week ago and i am devasted , he loves me , i know that but i lobe him too , and he doesnt get that. Breakup is mutual so we both dnt contact each other.

Should I leave him and find someone who makes me feel better or i shud wait for him to come around.

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